Therapy for Anxious Attachment
You know the feeling - you crave intimacy and closeness, but you're also afraid of being abandoned or rejected. You're constantly worried that your loved ones will leave you, even if there's no reason to believe that they would. You're always looking for signs that they're going to leave. The emotional turmoil this creates is exhausting to you, and you don’t know how to change it.
You need continued reassurance from your loved ones that they love you and that they're not going to leave you. You find yourself feeling jealous of your loved ones’ friends, family, and even their co-workers. You worry that they're going to find someone better than you. You find it difficult (or impossible) to relax and enjoy your relationships.
You spend a lot of time thinking about your relationships and what your loved ones are thinking and feeling - leading to anxiety and overthinking. You often feel like you're not good enough for your loved ones, and try constantly to prove your worthiness. It feels difficult to trust your loved ones and to feel like your relationships are stable despite your best efforts.
These concerns can lead to a lot of insecurity in your relationships. You may find yourself trying to control situations to ensure you are not abandoned. You may also become overwhelmed and easily frustrated in your relationships, which can push your loved ones away - the opposite of what you want!
So… is this you? Are you ready to see some changes? I can help!
MY Experience
I'm a psychologist with training and clinical expertise in attachment. I believe that the best way to work with adults with anxious attachment styles is through a collaborative approach. That means working with you to understand your individual needs and goals. Then, we'll hand-select evidence-based interventions that are tailored to you.
I'm here to help you reach your goals. Together, we can create a treatment plan that works for you.
Here's what you can expect from working with me:
A collaborative approach: We'll work together to understand your needs and goals, and then we'll develop a treatment plan that's tailored to you.
Evidence-based interventions: I'll use evidence-based interventions that have been shown to be effective in treating the concerns associated with anxious attachment.
Personalized support: I'll provide you with personalized support and guidance as you work towards your goals.
Building a plan
Many people think therapy is about their therapist telling them what to do. But that is actually not the most effective way to get results. Therapy is a collaborative process where we work together to identify your needs and develop strategies that will help you reach your goals.
Yes, therapy takes work. But it's worth it. I'm here to help you identify your needs and use my experience and training to build interventions that will help you achieve your goals.
Interested in therapy for Anxious attachment?
Interested in therapy for anxious attachment but not sure what it would entail? Therapy for adults with anxious attachment can help:
To reduce anxiety: Anxious attachment can lead to high levels of anxiety, and therapy can help individuals learn how to manage their anxiety and to develop more secure attachment patterns.
To improve relationships: Anxious attachment can interfere with relationships, as individuals may experience difficulty being independent of loved ones or be particularly demanding of their loved ones due to anxiety. Therapy can help individuals learn how to have healthier relationships and to feel more secure in their relationships.
To develop self-awareness: Anxious attachment can also be related to low self-esteem or other underlying concerns. Therapy can help individuals develop self-awareness and to understand the root of their anxious attachment.
To learn coping mechanisms: Therapy can teach individuals coping mechanisms for dealing with anxiety and for managing their attachment style. These coping mechanisms can help individuals feel more in control of their lives and to reduce the impact of anxious attachment on their relationships.
To get support: Therapy can provide individuals with anxious attachment with a safe and supportive space to talk about their experiences and to get support from a qualified professional. This can be especially helpful for adults who are struggling to cope with their anxiety or who are feeling isolated due to difficulties in relationships.
Still wondering?
Still wondering about specifics? Here are some more examples of what may be covered in therapy for adults with anxious attachment:
Emotional regulation: How to manage your anxiety in a healthy way.
Perspective-taking: How to see things from others’ perspective.
Building security: How to feel more confident and secure in your relationships.
Exploring roots of relational fears: How to understand where your relationship worries come from and how to overcome them.
Boundary setting: How to set healthy boundaries with your partner and protect your own needs.